This would be the end to the overflow of body/mind/spirit books.


After this book, there is no need to read anything else about how to find your true destiny or your inner truth / child / man / woman / guardian angel. Or how to fight for your rights, how to achieve success or how to make sure all your wishes are granted. Or how to win the game called life. How to take it? How to be?

The answer is here. Don't take it, leave it. Don't take it personally. Don't take it at all.


The fight is over, the search is over. No more loss or victory, no searching or finding. You’re serene and fulfilled at last. Nothing can disturb or mislead you any more.


Actually, there is nothing to discover, there is no lightness or enlightenment at all. You, by yourself, built this dark room around yourself. You are covered by yourself, you are sitting in yourself. You, by yourself, cannot see anything but yourself.

This dark room is actually you and nothing more. Come out. Look around. Let the sunshine in. And then, in broad daylight, you can see that the darkness didn’t really exist.

The cover around you, yourself, was just a myth, just a story you were told by yourself and others. It was not real thing. It was just an imaginary, though useful, tool in society.

There’s nothing to do and there’s no need to do anything anyway. If you leave your ‘self’ out, there’s no one who can get hurt. If you’re not there, no one can harm you, hurt you or insult you. That’s how simple it is. That's the Buddha's Four Noble Truths.


The book includes quotes from Laozi, the Taoist sage, but the main themes come from Buddhist  scriptures. One can easily find the four noble truths, the noble eightfold path, the five hindrances, the dependant origination, etc although these are not worded in the traditional way, to avoid unnecessary resistance from people who don't like any religion at all.


It's not an ordinary self-help book. You will not find any demands or commandments, any rules or restrictions in this book. No tasks, no exercises, no to-do lists, nothing to compete or complete.


Just keep in mind the four noble truths, follow the noble eightfold path, just let the way to lead you.




How to become better
The power of way
The missing is useful
Mind the gap
Why the truth?
Where you look, that’s where you go    
But that’s not all    
A short study of consciousness
Story of geese
Three old men
Fair play and good will
Life’s not fair
Great indifference
It depends on the question
There are inconveniences in life
There is a reason


You, yourself

Needs and intentions

Enough is enough!

How to die

How it happens    

You can get rid of this reason

Five obstacles






Do what you want

Nothing to do


Being in the moment

Everything is possible

No matter

It’s not all a miracle

There’s a difference

Mind can be developed

What is enlightenment?

The peculiarity of humans

There is a method

How to view

How to intend

How to speak

How to act

How to set up life

How to try

How to understand

How to proceed




Ajahn Jayasaro. Stillness Flowing: The Life and Teachings of Ajahn Chah. Panyaprateep Foundation, 2017. ISBN: 978-616-7930-09-1



Anthony Markwell. Truly Understanding the Teachings of the Buddha: A comprehensive guide to insight meditation. https://www.facebook.com/anthony.markwell.796



Buddhadāsa Bhikkhu. Handbook for Mankind. Thammasapa & Bunluentham Institution, 2008. ISBN: 978-6160303335


Buddhadāsa Bhikkhu. No Religion. Buddhadharma Meditation Center; 3rd edition, 1993. ISBN: 974-89647-3-6



How to Be: A Guide to Spiritual Development by Tõnn Sarv is a contemplative exploration of life’s truths and how to use them, by someone who has given the matter much intensive thought.

Author Tõnn Sarv outlines how people are caught in a vicious circle: you try to do good, but the consequences may be negative, so gradually you may stop trying. How can you find a workable middle ground? Here are some of Sarv’s suggestions: admit your flaws, learn to live with less, recognize that the “gap” or quiet space may be where things really happen, take things as they are but also begin to regard suffering as “not needed.”

Sarv presents spiritual concepts in a conversational style, quoting at times from Eastern wisdom with no adherence to any one dogma. His simple recommendations seem possible for ordinary people, not just for advanced practitioners of yoga or meditation, so the book should be most effective for those who are new to Eastern concepts. By being honest himself about his own deficiencies, he opens the possibility for personal honesty in his readers.

At times, Sarv’s pronouncements veer towards loftiness, as if the book is the final answer for one’s problems. Though his recommendations may be ultimately helpful, his self-regard may be off-putting to some readers – even if the book’s goal is to aid people’s self-confidence. At its best, the book asks the readers prodding and provocative questions that will help readers hone in on their weaknesses, such as, “If you can’t control yourself…then what can you do at all?”

All in all, the book’s gentle approach to tough love is both easy to understand and to implement, making How to Be a useful self-help primer for those new to spiritual practices, or those who have not found success with other approaches.

Self-Publishing Review

A spiritual development manual uses Eastern philosophy and personal experiences to present ideas about how to live a life of consciousness and fulfillment.

In brief essays on topics ranging from death, needs, intentions, and happiness to laziness, ambitions, forgiveness, and meaninglessness, Sarv (Learn to Say Good-Bye, 2016) explores a plethora of concepts related to life and communication. The purpose of the book is to redirect readers’ thoughts so that they can escape suffering and inconvenience. The author begins by describing consciousness: “We cannot define ourselves, our mind or our consciousness,” he asserts. “Your consciousness is not you. Consciousness is an environment in which the mind can appear.” From the beginning, Sarv’s theory of consciousness and the self is described in simple, direct language. The volume explores the many roots and causes of suffering, taking them apart and questioning whether individuals really need to experience life in the stressful, anxiety-ridden way that many do. The author strongly advises readers to closely observe their moods and the way they may continually revolve around particularly unhelpful ideas. This technique, Sarv suggests, can release unnecessary worries that have become a habit. Readers may have trouble with the blunt nature of the guide. The author himself warns readers that the manual may offend them by suggesting that individuals cause their own suffering. He explains that it is the perceived self—the image of the self—that actually suffers by believing that it has been mistreated, harmed, wronged, or disrespected. But those looking for a straightforward and practical perspective on suffering should appreciate the book’s sometimes-undiplomatic but often insightful passages dealing with self-identity, the false nature of the ego, and the misconception that individuals are separate from their surroundings. Overall, the volume is a refreshingly honest and unsentimental approach to spiritual development through practicing detachment and calming the mind.


A successful and concise guide to overcoming suffering.

Kirkus Review




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